How to Be the Kind of Partner People Actually Want to Play With
Spread some karma on the pickleball court...it does come back to you.
Pickleball is supposed to be fun. But nothing saps the joy out of a game faster than a partner who makes it feel like a chore. You know the type: the one who either micromanages every shot or floats around the court like they wandered in by accident.
A great pickleball partner isn’t necessarily the strongest player—it’s the one who makes the game better, whether you’re winning or not. So, what’s the secret sauce? A blend of awareness, attitude, and just a dash of strategy.
Talk (But Don’t Lecture)
Yes, communication is key. No, that does not mean you need to narrate every point like a sports commentator. Keep it concise: “Yours!” “Nice shot!” “Switch!” That’s all you need.
And when your partner flubs an easy shot (because we all do)? The correct response is not an exaggerated sigh or unsolicited advice. Try a simple “No worries!” and move on. It’s rec play, not a coaching session.
Find the Balance Between Assertive and Overbearing
A strong partner takes control when needed—but doesn’t hijack the entire game. If you’re the better player, resist the urge to poach every shot like you’re on a one-man mission to win at all costs. And if you’re the less experienced one? Focus on keeping the ball in play and setting your partner up for success.
The best teams don’t just win points—they make each other look good.
Move Like You’re in This Together
A good doubles team moves as a unit. If your partner shifts left, you shift right. If they creep up to the net, you don’t just hang back by the baseline like a lost tourist. Stay connected, cover the court together, and—above all—make eye contact once in a while so you’re on the same page.
Read the Room (or, in This Case, the Court)
Not every game is the Olympics, and not every player is trying to prove something. If your partner is there to have fun, match their energy instead of turning it into a high-stakes showdown.
Likewise, if they’re hustling and taking it seriously, it’s a little rude to spend the entire game chatting about your weekend plans. The best partners know when to dial it up and when to just enjoy the ride.
Respect the Social Side of the Game
Rec play is just as much about community as it is about competition. Be friendly before and after the game, introduce yourself to new players, and for the love of all things pickleball, don’t be that person who sulks after a loss. A little perspective goes a long way.
The Takeaway
The best pickleball partners don’t just play well—they make the game enjoyable. Communicate without overdoing it, play as a team, and, most importantly, remember why you’re there: to have fun. Do that, and you’ll never be short on playing partners.